The Power of Words Can Make or Break Your Relationship

A relationship has many needs to be successful.



But, almost all these needs are subconscious.
In fact, you won’t even realize you’re catering to these needs of your own perfect relationship unless you’re starting to fall out of love and need to make an effort just to be nice to your lover.
Romantic gestures and memories, and communication and pillow talk may be key requirements of a great relationship but there’s another subtle detail almost none of us bother about.
And that’s the power of words in a relationship.

The power of words in a relationship
Have you ever thought about how you speak to your partner, or how you treat them in private or public?
The kind of words you choose or the way you behave can have a much deeper impact than you can imagine.
The words you choose can make your relationship a lot better, or at times, it can push your partner away from you forever.
You may communicate well, share your dreams, respect your lover and even be great in bed, but the way you use the power of words could still affect your relationship on a subconscious level.
The words we hear and the effect it has on us
The power of words in a relationship is a subconscious energy that balances the relationship. The words you choose and the way you say something can make your lover feel closer to you.
Even as individuals, words play a big part in our lives. A compliment is a compliment, but yet, the words that are used to compliment you makes all the difference, doesn’t it?
On the other hand, words that you personally associate with negativity affect you more. If someone speaks about the traits of low confidence to a person who believes they’re not confident, it would affect them more than it would to a person who doesn’t believe it’s a negative trait of theirs.
And just like that, in our romantic lives too, the words you choose while speaking with your partner can subconsciously affect their views on the relationship.
You may believe you’re sensitive and sweet because you never criticize anyone or never pick an argument with anyone. But your partner may subconsciously believe that you’re rude at times, or perhaps even dominant. And that’s all because of the words you choose in your conversation while talking about matters close to both your hearts.
Even many first dates which you assumed went perfectly during the date may have led to a dead end with your date not calling you back and you may have no idea why. But perhaps, it’s all because of the words you chose to express your ideas.

How to be a Happy Couple That’s Envied by All

Happy couples are the epitome of romance.
Everyone wants to be them, and yet everyone hates them.
Do you want to be a happy couple who look so hot and happy it makes other lesser mortal couples stand away from their own partners in shame?
Well, there are ways.
Firstly, find out how to be happy in a relationship.
If you can’t be happy on the inside, there’s no way you’ll be able to rub any of that happy aura off on other couples.
And once you know how to really be happy, it’s time to share your love with the world, and rub it in.

The Effect Of Language

That old phrase, "sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me" is not really true. Words may not inflict visible bruises like sticks and stones, but they pack a punch nonetheless.      
Words injure our insides, our feelings and our self-esteem. External bruises are tangible proof that we've been hurt.  Internal bruises from verbal attacks are harder to prove, harder to acknowledge, and harder to talk about. 
Words and how we say them do matter, so it's very important to be careful how you speak to your partner and others.  The misuse and carelessness of how you speak are two of the main issues that undermine and can eventually destroy a relationship. 
There are many positive and compassionate ways to get your point across to someone you care about.  For example, a judgmental statement such as, "I feel like I'm walking on eggshells and can't say

Amazing Love Quotes

 If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don’t, they never were.

— Khalil Gibran

 Happiness is the china shop, love is the bull.

— H.L. Mencken

 Love is the extremely difficult realization that something other than oneself is real.
— Iris Murdoch

 Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.
— Albert Einstein

 Soul mate: two little words, one big concept. A belief that someone, somewhere, is holding the key to your heart.
—Carrie Bradshaw, “Sex and the City”

  Love is like a faucet, it turns off and on.
— Billie Holiday

Accustom yourself continually to make many acts of love, for they enkindle and melt the soul.
— Saint Teresa of Avila

 Love is a mutual self-giving which ends in self-recovery.
— Fulton J. Sheen

 It is easier to love humanity as a whole than to love one’s neighbor.

— Eric Hoffer

 Sometimes it’s hard to be a woman giving all your love to just one man.
— Tammy Wynette

Love is a sacred reserve of energy; it is like the blood of spiritual evolution.
— Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

 Happiness isn’t getting what you want, it’s wanting what you got.
— Garth Brooks

To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.
— David Viscott

 To love another person is to see the face of God.
—Victor Hugo

 Love is being stupid together.
— Paul Valery

 Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other.
— Rainer Maria Rilke

 Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.
— Peter Ustinov

 When we are in love we seem to ourselves quite different from what we
were before.
— Blaise Pascal

Love is suffering. One side always loves more.
— Catherine Deneuve

 If you wish to be loved, show more of your faults than your virtues.
— Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

Love is grand. Divorce is a hundred grand.
— Unknown 

You can’t put a price tag on love, but you can on all its accessories.
— Melanie Clark

It’s useless to hold a person to anything he says while he’s in love, drunk, or running for office.
— Shirley MacLaine

 My wish is that you may be loved to the point of madness.
— André Breton (What is Surrealism?: Selected Writings)

 A purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved.
— Kurt Vonnegut

 Romance is the glamour which turns the dust of everyday life into a golden haze.
— Elinor Glyn

You’ll get over it…” It’s the clichés that cause the trouble. To lose someone you love is to alter your life for ever. You don’t get over it because ‘it” is the person you loved. The pain stops, there are new people, but the gap never closes. How could it? The particularness of someone who mattered enough to grieve over is not made anodyne by death. This hole in my heart is in the shape of you and no-one else can fit it. Why would I want them to?
— Jeanette Winterson

 About all you can do in life is be who you are. Some people will love you for you. Most will love you for what you can do for them, and some won’t like you at all.

— Rita Mae Brown

The highest function of love is that it makes the loved one a unique and irreplaceable being.
— Tom Robbins

 To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow – this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.
— Elizabeth Gilbert

 This is what we call love. When you are loved, you can do anything in creation. When you are loved, there’s no need at all to understand what’s happening, because everything happens within you.
— Paulo Coelho

 I can write the saddest poem of all tonight. I loved her, and sometimes she loved me too.
— Pablo Neruda

 There is only one page left to write on. I will fill it with words of only one syllable. I love. I have loved. I will love.
— Audrey Niffenegger (The Time Traveler’s Wife)

 Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family. In another city.
— George Burns

I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.
— Martin Luther King, Jr.

A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
— Thomas Carlyle

 A man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him.
— Brendan Francis

Do not seek the because – in love there is no because, no reason, no explanation, no solutions.
— Anais Nin

The only abnormality is the incapacity to love.
— Anais Nin

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.
— Lucille Ball

‘Cause your love got the best of me, and baby you’re making a fool of me. You got me sprung and i don’t care who sees, ’cause baby you got me so crazy.
— Beyonce, “Crazy in Love”

 When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.
— Nora Ephron, “When Harry Met Sally”

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
— Helen Keller

 Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by
ourselves alone – we find it with another.
— Thomas Merton

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
— Friedrich Nietzsche

 The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.

— Audrey Hepburn

 Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place.
— Zora Neale Hurston

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which
makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.
— Rainer Maria Rilke

 Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
— Robert Frost

 A part of kindness consists in loving people more than they deserve.
— Joseph Joubert

 The giving of love is an education in itself.
— Eleanor Roosevelt

Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.
— Antoine de Saint-Exupery

 You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.
— Barbara de Angelis

 For small creatures such as we, the vastness is bearable only through love.
— Carl Sagan

 What the work really needs is more love and less paperwork.
— Pearl Bailey

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Love is like magic
And it always will be.
For love still remains
Life's sweet mystery!!
Love works in ways
That are wondrous and strange
And there's nothing in life
That love cannot change!!
Love can transform
The most commonplace
Into beauty and splendor

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SOMEBODY NEEDS YOU!!!

Just as the famous WESTLIFE band sang in that outstanding performance “somebody needs you”
Somebody indeed needs you like never before, 
Somebody wants your love…. 

I wouldn’t actually know how and when this word started, but thu8s far I know actually somebody, somewhere, somehow needs you.
Have you ever for once sat to imagine what does my neighbor next door actually desire from me? Personally, I have on several occasions imagined why do I have so many friends, and why wont they turn away from me though I am not so financially buoyant to feed five thousand men with loaves of bread and fishes. But I realize that somebody needs me. 
I might not be the best but the fact remains I am a better example for someone.

Life wouldn’t be sweet enough if there is nobody around us to comfort and to guide, to lean on and to learn from, to push and to pull. Life would be a mystery if there is no one to put a smile on our face, to wipe our tears when we cry, to scold us to correction….

Oh! I have nothing to offer anybody; I am poor, wretched, and dirty, having next to nothing, so why would someone need me? This might be running through your mind as a question.
But helps isn’t all about material things you get to offer.

Even Gods knows that no one is out-rightly poor as not to help another person. Jesus also knew that there were poor people then, yet He said: “GIVE!” this you can find in the gospel according to saint Luke Chapter 6:38.
He was very much aware that people without money and material things like the poor widow who was left with nothing but debt from her late husband who almost lost her two children to creditors because she couldn’t pay her debt still existed, and people who also had no bank account like Peter and John who said “Silver and Gold we have not”. He knew that some people who had nothing to eat and are only gathering firewood to prepare their last meal and die still existed, yet HE said “Give and it shall be given unto you”

Then I asked myself if somebody needs me, what exactly do they need me for?

You might also not know, but at least one person needs you for at least one of the following:

•  Somebody needs your smile: Can you categorically tell how many people get lifted just at a sight of you smiling? Can you tell how many people get hope from your smile? People a times get up from their depression as a result of our magically smiles. You might not know unless they confide in you, yet not everyone would be bold enough to tell you how magically your smile has helped in lifting there half-dead spirit. Someone is out there in a state of rejection, dejection, feeling neglected and all he needs is just for someone to smile at him, to make him come back to life again. Somebody, somewhere, somehow needs your smile. Might be you’re your colleague at work, neighbor next-door, or even the commercial diver your board his vehicle or that lady at the market place. Somebody needs your smile.
• Somebody needs your Time: someone out there needs nothing from you but your time, all they want from you is that you spare a little time out of your busy schedule to attend to hear there problem. Even if you won’t provide the solution needed at that time, the time you spend with such wont be forgotten easy. Somebody needs your time.
• Somebody needs your tears: As shocking as it sounds, did you know that somebody out there actually needs you to sympathize with him/her? You wonder why I didn’t use it that way that somebody needs your sympathy. Well often times we sympathize for sympathy sake not because we mean it, but the tears would roll down the eyes automatically when you put yourself in the shoes of that person. That way the bereaved wouldn’t feel alone. That is a sign that you feel is pains and he isn’t walking on life road alone.
• Somebody needs your companionship
• Somebody needs your food
• Somebody needs your Idea
• Somebody needs your support
• Somebody needs your experience
• Somebody needs your Opinion
• Somebody needs your Love

 

• Somebody needs your hug: Oh yes! Somebody actually needs this. You wander why someone needs your hug. Somebody needs your hug to actually cure loneliness, a simple hug, mild cuddling and a tender kiss on the cheek and on the fore-head might actually signify acceptance, making the person feel welcomed. It is capable of curing depression and rejection. Such an expensive cure it is yet it cost nothing.
• Somebody needs your “YES”: you could be saving a life unknowing to you just by saying a simple YES or NO. The Yes or No could be an answer to any question. Question like:

* Will you go with me?

* Will you be there for me?

* Will you help me with that?

* Will you do this or will you do that……… and many more questions like that

* Oh! I almost forgot this one, Will you marry ME?

•  Somebody needs you to say I DO: somebody needs you to complete his world, needs you to spend the rest of your life with him, needs you to be the completing part of his ribs, the one he wakes to see at dawn the one says goodnight to at night fall, the one to be called your Man, and all he needs from you is to say I DO.

Human needs differs so also is you role different in peoples life.

Can I enjoy been needed? 

Sometimes sure, but often times it’s tiring and exhausting, but it isn’t meant top be enjoyed always, depending on the area you’re needed. See it as a duty. God made me a man knowing I would be needed for some muscular duties yet he made some others women for different duty and different functioning area. It is my duty to respond to the needs of others for as long as I can.
Let me quickly share this with you: “I once help some students with my accommodation back then while I was on campus, they were actually "jambites" who came for post-jamb, and I welcomed them, seven of them to pass a night in my little students room, I cooked and we all ate and talked till we all slept off. I never knew them from anywhere and I’m not so sure I can recollect their faces if we meet again. At about 3:15am I saw one of them moved out of the room, to hiss himself I guess, not so long he returned and he whispered:

MATTHEW! With a still calm voice

I pretended to be sleeping hoping he only wanted some light.

MATTHEW!! He called again but this time a little louder.

I’ve never met a guy so like you before, who would care for strangers like is own brothers, thank you very much, I LOVE YOU, he said and closed the door as he went outside to read.

And just like that he’s gone, but his word still hang in the cool night air, if only I could reach out and snatch them, I would grab his words and hug them to my chest. His soft voice whispering one of the best sentences in the world. I LOVE YOU from someone who barely knows me. A smile curls across my lips and I slowly exhale, almost afraid to blow the memory away. I drift back to sleep and let his words settle in my heart.”

Now is time you’re needed, though it may look exhausting, you just have to stop dreaming of “one day” when things will be easier. Because the truth is, it may get easier, but it will never be better than today. Because those you fail to meet their needs today might end up been the ones you’ll need their helps tomorrow.

SOMEBODY SOMEWHERE SOMEHOW NEEDS YOU!!!