Communication Difficulties in Relationships:

I would prefer to start this way, i hope we'll conclude this discussion as soon as possible. Because the issue of communication difficulties relationships is as broad as the term communication itself.

You would agree with me when i say that problems in life are all about the extremes.

The communication pattern of most couples is either to be silent & avoid or be angry & dumping.continue


How to talk in the middle ground to solve problems is a mystery in most relationships. Avoiding the sweet spice of conflict is a mistake, conflict does not have to be ugly. In fact, conflict is growth trying to happen. Our culture values individualism so highly that we often don’t ask ourselves how much accommodation can you each risk?

Balancing both conflict and accommodation is a tricky business in relationships.
It takes a massive amount of dialogue to stay respectful of differences and to solve the problems that are in between both people. It is only through talking, talking, talking & talking some more that we can begin to truly see each other. Accurately understanding someone else’s priorities takes time.

We have to make time in our frantic lives to make communication work for better relationships.
People often translate the idea of “not wanting to hurt someone” into an excuse for taking the short term easier path of silence. Switch into the long term approach of teaching someone else who you really are, that’s the work of relationships.

The goal in relationships is for dialogue instead of truncated, parallel monologues which are far less interesting.

Dialogue is more scary in relationships because it means you are open to change, more vulnerable and are willing to be disagreed with.

One of the things I have realized – and people who have been married a long time realize – is that marriage is not a love affair. A love affair has to do with immediate personal satisfaction. But marriage is an ordeal; it means yielding, time and again. That’s why it’s a sacrament: you give up your personal simplicity to participate in a relationship. And when you’re giving, you’re not giving to the other person: you’re giving to the relationship. And if you realize that you are in the relationship just as the other person is, then it becomes life building, a life fostering & enriching experience, NOT an impoverishment because you’re giving to someone else.
- Joseph Campbell

to be continued in the next episode of Communication Difficulties in Relationships

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